"The one who is wise is free from careless or negative talk about others."
When someone tells us something negative about another person, we tend to listen with great interest. This encourages the other person to continue talking about it. But such talk is not really useful for anyone and provides no solutions for the problem at hand.
When someone is talking about another person's shortcomings, I need to question why I am listening; is this information of any use to me, or can I do anything about the situation? If not, I need to remind myself that there is no use in listening to such talk. Instead, I need to make an attempt to look at the positive qualities of the person in question, and think about how I can help everyone focus on these instead.
Often we find ourselves caught up in situations which lead to negativity. Once we are aware of our negative feelings, we are unable to see things logically, which only leads to more negativity.
To bring about positivity in my life, I need to try to understand why the situation has arisen. Then I will be able to remain happy under all circumstances. I will be free from the influence of others' negativity. Instead I will become a major source of positive influence to those around me.
"To listen to others frees us from repeating mistakes."
When other people criticize us, we often ignore them or focus on defending ourselves. We lose the power to listen, and are unable to accept the help that others are trying to give us. We fail to correct our mistakes and find that the same problems recur frequently.
When people criticize things I say or do, I need to think about whether there is any truth in what they are saying. Although it might hurt to accept some of the things they tell me, I know they only want the best for me. Once I am aware of my weaknesses, I can change my behavior and constantly improve, moving toward success.